Putting a ring on it? Here’s how to plan the engagement party!

If both families have not met before, then an engagement party is the perfect way to get both families bonding

Lara Barakat

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You’re engaged!! Congratulations! Once you have overcome all the excitement from looking at that gorgeous bling on your finger, you'e going to want to celebrate this special occasion with your closest friends, and family.

An engagement party is usually scheduled no later than three months after the big announcement, the purpose of an engagement party is to share the news of your imminent union with future wedding guests, to introduce your families to each other, and to celebrate the impending, well, celebration. there are many traditions when it comes to the hosts of engagement parties, usually the bride’s parents host the initial gathering, but the groom’s parents can then throw their own party, or both sets can come together to host the fete. As you decide, here are five things the hosts should keep in mind.

Hold your horses:

Do not schedule an all-out affair during the first month of your engagement. You and your partner both need time to revel in just being engaged. Plan to have an engagement party two to four months after the question was popped. That gives you the chance to envision your eventual wedding, a crucial element to consider when deciding on the type of event to throw.

Find out the size of your wedding:

The guests you invite to the engagement party should ultimately be invited to the wedding. Otherwise, guests might wonder what they did at the engagement party to insult you. However if you decide to host your own wedding and keep the list small and you want to throw an extravagant engagement party, go for it. Just be sure to let people know that the wedding will be small so no feelings will be hurt when guests aren’t invited to the wedding.

Register for gifts:

While guests have not brought presents to this function traditionally, increasing numbers do today, so it’s only fair to provide guidance. Register for gifts in the low to middle range, an expensive coffee maker for example is not your typical engagement present. If some guests arrive bearing gifts, just be sure you unwrap them after the party or away from the crowd, so people who came empty-handed won’t feel uncomfortable.

Consider the in-laws:

If both families have not met before, then an engagement party is the perfect way to get both families bonding. Consider their style, if one of you has a very formal family, an impromptu picnic in the park might not be the most appropriate setting for getting to know one another. Likewise, a five-course sit-down dinner attended by all your friends might be a bit intimidating for them. Settle nerves by including as many people from their side as you can reasonably accommodate.

Remember, this is not the wedding:

Lately I have found that people tend to go all out for engagement parties, leaving nothing for surprise when it comes to the actual wedding. It is understandable that every host wants to plan an unforgettable affair, but you never want to upstage the main event. Try to create a different mood for the engagement party while maintaining your own style.